Being asked to be the maid of honor for your friend’s wedding is a true honor. This role is often given a lot more responsibility than your average bridesmaid, which means that the bride respects and trusts you enough to have you help plan and prepare a large portion of the wedding events. And while this can be a fun task for many, if you have a very busy schedule already, it can be hard to find a balance between getting everything done in your own life and helping your friend with her special day. So to help make this a little easier on you, here are three tips for nailing your role as the maid of honor even when you’re super busy.
Delegate, Delegate, Delegate
While there will likely be a few tasks that will be best completed by you, for the majority of things that a maid of honor typically helps with for a wedding, you can and should consider delegating to others in the wedding party. To effectively do this, Jen Glantz, a contributor to Brides.com, suggests being in constant contact with the wedding party about what still needs to be done and what they can help with. You could even create teams who could be in charge of certain types of tasks or assign things based on who has what relevant qualities or experience. You definitely don’t have to do everything on your own, so make sure you utilize others to help get all the work done.
Make Yourself As Available As Possible
Like was mentioned above, there are some times where the bride is going to want you to be there to give your insight and opinion. If she’s unsure about the wedding rings, she might want you to be there and see the options she’s considering. If she needs help picking the right cake, you may have to try your fair share of frosting. But when you’re working with your own busy schedule, it can be a challenge to physically be there for everything. When this is the case, Ally Hickson, a contributor to Refinery29, suggests just making sure that you’re trying your best to be as available as possible. Return phone calls when you miss them and give opinions when they’re requested. As long as you’re trying, your bride shouldn’t feel like she’s being neglected.
Always Protect The Bride’s Wishes
One of the biggest jobs of the maid of honor is making sure everything happens the way the bride wants, regardless of what others might think is best. But if you’re not aware of what she actually wants, you can’t always protect her wishes. So to make everyone’s life easier, at the beginning of all the planning, sit down with the bride and find out exactly what she wants her wedding to entail. By taking the time to do this in the beginning, you can know when to say “no” to other’s opinions and stay true to what the bride would want.
If you’re worried about being tasked with the maid of honor responsibilites, use the tips mentioned above to help you assist your friend without dropping the ball on your own life.