We all want to be the best parent we can be – which we often believe is staying by our children’s side 24 hours a day. We try to live up to this perfect idea of what it is to be a good parent- especially as new mothers – and can be disappointed with our abilities when we fail to meet our expectations.
What we have to remember is that we are human. We will feel tired. We can be easily annoyed. We can sometimes want to scream when our baby wakes us up by crying in the middle of the night. We are not superheroes, and sometimes we need a break.
Having a day or two away from your child is healthy, as you’ll appreciate your home-life a whole lot more when you return – and it gives you a chance to feel like a human again, instead of a child feeding and cleaning machine. Also, if you have a partner, it can provide a chance to reconnect with your soul mate, which is healthy for your relationship and will ensure your little one grows up in a loving home.
You don’t have to go half way across the world, either. Sometimes a break is as simple as booking into a hotel for the night in your city – or heading for a mini-break in a nearby location. I recently took a weekend break in my hometown and it gave me a chance to have a full night’s sleep, an uninterrupted meal and a bit of free-will. I felt like the person I was before I was a mother, but it also made me really miss my little one, and I couldn’t wait to get back home to my old life. Sometimes a day or two away is all it takes.
If you’re anything like me, you probably dread the thought of leaving your little one at home, whilst you go off on a nice break, but don’t. As long as you leave them in the capable hands of someone you love and trust, like your parents or partner, they will be fine. Take your mobile phone with you, but try not to check in too often – or you won’t enjoy yourself, and they’ll think you don’t trust them. The key is to just let go for a little bit – not completely, but enough not to ruin your time.
Go on a romantic break. Get the girls together for a day of pampering. Go visit a loved one – even if they just live down the road.
So, what are you waiting for? Arrange a babysitter and go book a night away. You deserve it, and so does your little one. There’s no shame in admitting you need a little time for yourself, and we bet your loved ones would encourage you to do so. Trust me, you will be glad you did.