Choosing the Right Option for Aging Parents

As your parents grow older, there may be difficult decisions that you have to make regarding housing and living arrangements for them. In the best way to avoid stress and complications regarding this topic is to bring it up as a discussion point as far in advance as practically possible.

You should talk to your parents about finding high-quality caregivers, the potential of retirement communities, if it makes sense to have them move in with you, and what they want done explicitly with some of their different health conditions. Even though they can be tough topics to talk about, the more normalized you make discussions, the better the results are going to be when it comes time to make a decision.

High-Quality Caregivers

The search for high-quality caregivers may take a little bit of time. Depending on where you live, where your parents live, and where a good geographic target is going to be, it may take you many months to find the right place and the right people. Typically, you can give interviews to potential caregivers as well, whether they are at an assisted facility, or they are people who come to your parents’ house.

Retirement Community Potential

If your parents are still fairly active and want to be around like-minded individuals, they can join a retirement community and live there. This is an excellent option for parents who still want to maintain their independence, but don’t necessarily wants to live in and among people who aren’t retirement age as well. Some of the most popular places to go to live in retirement communities include Florida and Arizona, and there are all sorts of humorous anecdotes about older couples golfing in those states.

Having Your Parents Move in With You

Some people decide that the best option for aging parents is to have them move in with you. If your children have already come and gone, you may have extra space in your household. In certain countries and cultures, this can be more or less expected. Again, it’s important that you bring the discussion up early though because different families will have different expectations from different generations.

Being Explicit With Health Discussions

In the end, the more explicit you are with your discussions about health and housing, the better prepared you will be to make a decision when you have to. If you avoid the topic of aging parents moving from where they are comfortable to somewhere that they may not be, it’s going to be a very stressful occurrence if it has to happen quickly later on in life, especially if there’s an associated health condition with it. Even when your parents potentially have years of independent living left, ask them about what you should do when this changes.

Kelly Tate

Kelly is a full-time supermum, caring for two kids and a hardworking husband. A cook, a cleaner, a carer and all round hard worker, striving for the perfect family life (with a few bumps along the way!) Eternally honest and sometimes brutally forward, no topics are off limits with Kelly.
Kelly Tate